Recently my eye caught an article that made me stop and go why? Vice-President Mike Pence made a statement that he would not have dinner alone with any woman but his wife.
Now for something that, in my opinion, should be applauded that he takes his marriage seriously and never wants to do anything that could potentially jeopardize his relationship with his wife, it is getting an awful lot of backlash. People are running him through the coals because of his decision to put his marriage first.
Now, what he said was that he “would not have a meal with only a woman or attend an event with alcohol without my wife present.”
From what I read that doesn’t seem to be a horrible statement. Sounds like he really loves his wife and would never want to be in a situation that could be misconstrued and cause a scandal.
Apparently, there are several that don’t see it that way. In fact, there are many who find that this is limiting career opportunities to women.
Seriously? I guess I didn’t realize that not having dinner with a man who wasn’t your spouse alone would limit my opportunities as a career woman and nearly my entire team is made up of guys.
This whole thing seems blown out of proportion. He was talking about honoring his wife and not dining alone with another woman. Not engaging in events that have alcohol without your wife because that could lead to compromising situations if you drink too much. He is valuing his marriage, which is something our country with our high divorce rate shouldn’t shun or ridicule but admire and take note of.
If you go out to dinner alone with a member of the opposite sex, whether you intend to or not, there is that potential of planting a seed that could quickly grow into something that could damage your marriage.
You could have a completely secure relationship, but unwillingly letting things in that have the possibility of harming your relationship and I believe that’s what the vice-president is trying to avoid. Affairs don’t typically happen overnight, but start in the heart, then with a simple touch, innocent flirting, and then a dinner alone.
Proverbs puts it nicely.
Now therefore, listen to me, my children; Pay attention to the words of my mouth:
Do not let your heart turn aside to her ways, Do not stray into her paths;
You may find me prude, but I just wonder if America is becoming too callous to the sanctity of marriage. What reason would I have to go have dinner alone with someone who isn’t my husband? Business meetings maybe, but aren’t they typically during the day and with others?
Valuing your marriage above your reputation and not wanting things to be taken out of context, but mostly because you love that person with every fiber of your being is not a bad thing, but something to be praised.
So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.