Everyone has a fear. That deep seated fear that is difficult to find refuge from. For my mother it’s heights. My husband has a huge arachnophobia, which if you learn the story behind it is very justified.
For me, I’ve always had a fear of failure. Because failing isn’t acceptable in my mind. Failing means you didn’t succeed and you let people down. You let yourself down. It is a horrid feeling because I probably take too much stock in how others think of me and I never want to be thought of as a failure.
Making mistakes, in my mind, is a failure. I’ve struggled in this for so long and even though I know that we all fail and we all make mistakes, I am still hardest on myself with this. And when my children fail and make mistakes, I am so much more encouraging to them then I ever am to myself. Because it’s okay for them to make mistakes, it’s not okay for me.
I think we have seasons where we go through our struggles and issues more frequently and lately it has been my season. But it is amazing how when we go through these times, if we pay attention and listen, God can speak to us in beautiful ways to help steer us back towards His thoughts about us.
After a hard day at work awhile back, I was especially beating myself up on something that had happened, feeling like an utter failure, asking God why and I could hear His response very clearly.
Mistakes do not define you.
And I say that you are beautiful and talented and loved and etched by my hand to do great things.
Then, as if to continually push the reminder, a couple days after this my kids were watching their morning Bible lesson and it was all revolved around not having a fear of failure and trusting that God is right there to help you through anything. We all make mistakes, but it doesn’t define who we are. We need to grow and learn from them. And we cannot hold back on what God is giving us as an opportunity because we fear we may fail.
“For I hold you by your right hand– I, the Lord your God. And I say to you, ‘Don’t be afraid. I am here to help you.”
Isaiah 41:13 NLT
And because God knows I have a thick head and He really has to pound things in for me to get it, my children and I watched the movie Meet the Robinsons. I had never seen it before and wow! What a fun movie but most of all, what a great movie about getting past your failures!
There are two great quotes from this film that I think anyone who struggles with failing should hear.
From failing you learn, from success not so much
I propose a toast to Lewis and his brilliant failure! May it lead to success in the future!
How nice would it be if we did take our failures and in a sense celebrated them as a reminder to ourselves that there is no failure if you learned something from it and like that movie’s main point was, when you fail, which all of us will inevitably do, Keep Moving Forward!
This is something that I am working hard to remember and when I start to forget it seems that God is also working hard at reminding me by sending little things my way as well!
Let us strive towards not focusing on the mistakes and the failures but on rising above and continuing to get better. God didn’t create us as mistakes or failures, but beautiful treasures that have moments of falling in the dirt and just need some cleaning to restore our shine!